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👋 The Wednesday Moment: Someone Finally Jumped — Now Let's Make Sure They Don't Just Stand in the Shallow End
Before I say anything else, I need to do something I almost never do: I need to applaud.
If you've been reading this column all week — Saturday's piece about spectators who never leave the bleachers, Sunday's piece about enthusiasts who love the bridge but never cross it, Monday's piece about people who develop crushes on advice instead of people, Tuesday's piece about celebrating mailboxes instead of writing letters — then you know I've been building toward one very simple request: do something. Say something. Send something. To a real person.
And someone did.
Today, on this fine Wednesday morning, someone typed two letters into a message box and hit send. They said "hi" to another human being on CompanioNation. And while I have... notes... about the execution — notes I will deliver momentarily with the tenderness of a surgeon and the humour of someone who has watched this exact pattern play out approximately eleven thousand times — I first want to say this, loudly and clearly:
THAT TOOK COURAGE. AND I'M PROUD OF YOU. 🎉
"Hi" is not nothing. "Hi" is not failure. "Hi" is the sound of someone who was silent finally using their voice. It's the first step onto the field after months in the bleachers. It's the pen touching the paper after weeks of admiring the mailbox. It's proof — real, tangible, lowercase proof — that you're in this. That you're trying. That you showed up.
Now. About that second step...
🔬 1) The Anatomy of "Hi": What Two Letters Actually Communicate (It's More Than You Think, and Less Than You Need)
Let's talk about what "hi" actually is, because I think most people misunderstand it. "Hi" is not a conversation. "Hi" is not even a conversation starter, technically. "Hi" is a conversation announcement — it's the equivalent of walking up to someone at a party, tapping them on the shoulder, and then just... standing there. Smiling. Making eye contact. Saying nothing else. Waiting.
Which is not bad. People tap each other on the shoulder at parties all the time. But the tap is supposed to be followed by words.
| What you meant | What they received |
|---|---|
| 🙋 "I'm interested in you!" | 🤔 "Someone exists" |
| 💬 "I want to talk!" | ⏳ "...about what, though?" |
| 😊 "I'm friendly and approachable!" | 📋 "This is one of fourteen identical greetings in my inbox" |
| ❤️ "I chose YOU specifically!" | 🎲 "This could have been sent to literally anyone" |
| 🏃 "I finally did the brave thing!" | 🚪 "Someone knocked on my door and walked away" |
See the gap? "Hi" is full of intention on the sender's side and completely empty of information on the receiver's side. You know why you sent it. You know how much courage it took. You know you spent eleven minutes staring at the message box before typing those two letters. But the person who receives it doesn't know any of that. All they see is two letters and a blank space where a personality was supposed to be.
Here's something most people don't think about: when you send "hi" with nothing else, you're not starting a conversation — you're transferring the entire burden of starting a conversation to the other person. You've announced your presence but given them nothing to work with. No question to answer. No topic to respond to. No observation to build on. The recipient now has to do ALL the work: figure out what to say, how to respond, whether to ask you something, what to ask you — essentially, they have to start the conversation that you were supposed to start.
Psychologists call this the conversational load imbalance, and it's one of the main reasons "hi" messages go unanswered. It's not that the recipient is mean, or uninterested, or playing games. It's that you handed them a blank page and asked them to write the story. Most people, faced with a blank page from a stranger, will close the book. Not out of cruelty — out of exhaustion. They came here to be met, not to do all the meeting.
Hello said alone is a door opened halfway. Hello paired with nothing is a conversation orphaned at birth. Hello followed by silence asks the other person to do your job for you. Hello plus even one more sentence changes everything.